Faith Fitness and Laughter

Loving Difficult People

This is a tough one for me. 

Because for the most part, I love everyone. 

But I think that because I wear my feelings…….. everywhere, loving difficult people is well, difficult. 

Right now I am reading like 6 books at the same time.  I don’t recommend it.

One of them is called, For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards by Jen Hatmaker and I am currently on the chapter titled, yep you got it, Loving Difficult People.




I just wanted to share some of the quotes that have really stuck out to me…


    • You are not responsible for the spiritual health of everyone around you, nor must you weather the recalcitrant behavior of others. It is neither kind nor gracious to enable.


But when an endless amount of blood, sweat, and tears leaves a relationship unhealthy—When there is virtually no redemption, when red flags have frantically waved for too long—sometimes the healthiest response is to walk away.

But when you are locked in a toxic relationship or community, spiritual pollution can murder everything tender and Christlike in us; and a watching world doesn’t always witness those private kill shots.

Jesus modeled this behavior.  Without so much as an apology, He told His disciples to “shake the dust off your fee” when encountering hostile people (Matthew 10:14)

Jesus was tender toward brokenness but impatient toward egotism.


A good starting point is grace.  Not superficial, sentimental fluff but the tough, dig-under-the-surface brand.  If a difficult relationship is permanent, grace will grease the wheels.  Most thorny people are thorny for a reason.  It doesn’t excuse bad behavior, but understanding early injuries or hidden wounds cushions blows.  It is no free pass, but empathy is a powerful tool toward forgiveness and patience.  If we must stay the course, compassion helps us weather the road. 

Here is a boundary for beginners: You are worthy of basic human respect just because you are alive.  No one should demean, despise, mock, or humiliate you.  You should not stand for that behavior.  That is not the way of Christ, neither on the giving nor receiving end. 

Boundaries assume all offensive behavior will continue for the projected future.  You are not altering someone else’s conduct but clarifying what you will put up with.



Anyway, it’s just a few that stuck out to me. 🙂






Have a beautiful day!

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